Hi! Seems to me, that's the advantage of coming out - you make yourself a beacon to other freaks. The more your perversity or potential for perversity is out there for the world to see, the more likely you'll find like-minded people. Odds are, many of the folks you regard as 'vanilla' are waiting for someone else to cue them that it's OK to live many of their fantasies...
Being open about freakiness can also incur some negativity, and there are definitely spaces where it's practical to keep a low profile, but overall, it'll be worth yer while. Good luck!