|Poster: Sister ssspread
Subject: Re: The body that holds me back
Oh honey, if I could only count the number of times I've heard from people with similar questions...it's enough to break a girl's heart. The most important thing is that sexiness isn't about your body or skin or your outside at all. Sexiness comes from confidence, in my opinion. Your perceptions about yourself are keeping you from gaining the confidence you need to go strut your stuff. You need to take baby steps for now. Treat yourself to something special...either a spa day or go buy some new clothes. If those activities foster your insecurities, then find something that will make you feel good about yourself. It could be something as simple as seeing a good film. Make this a social event though...take a good friend with you. Afterwards, go to bar where you can test out some flirtations. You can take it slow, but keep making progress. When you feel like just staying home in front of the TV, ask yourself if it's fear that's keeping you there. If so, defy it. You're the only one that can take down these barriers...you're the one that put them there, afterall. Write back in two weeks, and let me know how you're doing. Good luck.